Adversity ~~~> Acceptance ~~~> Positive Turnaround

Let's assume that we have an uncontrollable situation now. It's hard to avoid such situations but it is in our hands to accept that and move on. So, let's analyze one such situation and also possible exits out of it.

The situation - You just had a break-up

 

Common symptoms include :

 

·       Stress

·       Depression

·       Societal pressure

·       Emotional imbalance

·       Anger

·       Feeling lost

·       Feeling stuck

·       Doubting your worth

 

Now ask yourself

 

ü    Did I try to sort it out?

ü    Did I find the possible cause and rectify that?

ü    Was I at fault?

ü    Is a compromise possible?

ü    Will it work out if I give way?

 

You answered yes for all the above questions (except the middle one which is a no, obviously).  But sadly, the situation is still the same.

 

Now let us apply the positive turnaround

 

Cry – Honour your emotions, but say to yourself :  Yes! The situation is now uncontrollable. I can’t change it but I can change myself. I will accept this.

 

Breathe – In hale acceptance and ex hale the love and attachment.

 

Think big – Earth is a tiny spec of dust from space. Then where am I? Where are my worries? Let it go

 

Drink water – Take every sip mindfully saying “This is how I am diluting my anxiety, worry and stress over this uncontrollable event. This too shall pass”

 

Walk – Say to your feet “crush my worries, my stress and the societal pressure. I am strong to crush this. I will accept this and move on”

 

What ever you do, say a positive affirmation that you accept this and will get over it. It is tough in the beginning, but trust me! You can bring it to practice if you sincerely follow it. Your mind can do the magic for you. Instead of asking “Why me?” say “I am glad it’s me” because you are strong enough to get over it. Get over anything. Only give your acceptance to the situation. Cheers!